As I said it's a bad idea to connect external devices over the board's connectors with XSPI/OSPI especially at 200MHz. That won't work especially when doing connection with wires.
You may face issues with the memory communication / data corruption due to the signal integrity at higher frequencies.
The connectors on the board contains other alternate functions not only XSPI/OSPI that's why they are exposed.
To answer your question: the only signal that makes a memory available on the bus is its chip select. Generally speaking, if the the chip select is already hardwired on the board to the memory, you cannot use that interface even all the signals are exposed externally off the board unless you unsolder that memory or the device on board. But again you need to take care about the signal integrity.
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